People are people. And one of our natures is being judgmental. In our culture, Filipinos love stories. Stories from the neighborhood, from our classmates, issues about that celebrity, why that friend broke up with her boyfriend, and so on. We tend to conclude what just happened and judge the other party even when we don’t even hear the story. One-sided judgment most of the time. Or let’s say, in a classroom setting, you only get to know the people you like, say, the appearance, how they talk, or if they approached you. But sure enough, you have those bubbles of thoughts saying stuff about those people who you don’t even know yet.
Judgment. Even if we would be fed by mantras about judgment, we cannot control the thoughts of people. Whether you like it or not, they would still perceive a lot of things about you, some may be wrong and some may be true.
There is one great story in the Bible which I related to this one. Have you read the story about Jesus and the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11)? I just love how Jesus responded to the people who were trying to reveal a sin committed by the woman and in turn, give her a punishment as set to the rule. Jesus didn’t condemn the woman, He never judged her and never looked at her the way those people did. We are all sinners, we all fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23) but God loves us despite this fact. But don’t get me wrong. Yes, God still loves us but we are not pleasing to His eyes. But through grace and through Jesus’ sacrifices on the cross, we are all forgiven. So who are we to judge if in the eyes of the Lord, we are all even?
Jesus have already set an example. We may always have a thought on someone we just met, but don’t jump into conclusions unless you deeply knew the person. And, you’re right. They would always perceive thoughts about you but the important thing is, you know your identity, you know who you really are and those thoughts will remain bubbles that would pop and won’t hurt you.